Being a psy major I find myself giving advice to friends and family on a regular... but what bothers me is when some1 ask 4 advice and u give it 2 them and they immediately want 2 have a debate about the advice I jus offered! Soooo here is my unspoken truth!...enjoy!
Right and Wrong? Who makes the decision?
When ur young ur parents tell u when something is wrong. Whether or not u continue to do it, u believe in the back of ur mind that ur doing something "wrong". So now as adults we have been programmed to believe when we hear the word "wrong" we are doing something just that...wrong. Well thas not true!!!
What we as human beings have to understand is we are all different... emotionally, physically, and mentally different. Yes we agree on some things but thas only to a certain extent!
*When something feels so rite, it cant b wrong!!!!* I think this is something ppl should cherish and live by, bc its the UNSPOKEN TRUTH!!
There is no way or reason u should feel bad or wrong about something that makes u feel so good or right! No REASON! but the problem comes when we begin to hear what other ppl think. Our "friends" and family, have a huge impact on our thinking process. If u feel as if something is right and they tell u they feel as if its wrong, w/o even knowing u question ur own feelings! Crazy I kno rite... but thas one of those things we have just been conditioned to do. You have to grow mentally. The problem is we are still in our adolescent minds! We dnt know how to think on our owns. Thas why we ask for a advice, and go 2 ppl for help. And to be honest its nothing wrong with needing advice or help...but its the way u go about getting those things!
What I have found myself doing lately is...when some1 comes to me 4 advice, I ask questions 1st about how they feel about the situation and what they think they should do! what they dont realize is, Im helping them ans their own questions and solve their own problems with their own ans! I dnt want to b the 1 who tells u how u feel is wrong or right bc thas just not me! I want u 2 learn ur own life lessons, and teach urself a few things, and b happy w/how u think, not happy w/how some1else has 2 make u think! The "reality" is u have 2 b sure and positive that the things u r doing and the things u want 2 do are RIGHT 4 u! Those things will make u happy, bc @ the end of the day UR FEELINGS are all that matter! Its okay 2 ask questions(thas how we sometimes learn things) but ask urself those ques and c what ans u can give urself b4 u go and ask some1else! We, as human beings, are quick 2 tell some1 they r wrong and judge them but until u r in their situation until u r them physically, emotionally, and mentally u CANNOT judge!! Bc what may b rite 2 u, may b wrong 2 another person and vice versus!
REMEMBER 2 do these things:
1. Dnt ask questions u dnt wanna kno the ans 2!
2. Figure out b4 u even ask advice, what kind of advice r u looking 4?
-The REALITY
-The Sweet version
-OR u just want some1 2 listen 2 u
3. Dnt b afraid 2 speak out about how u feel and ur experiences... even if a whole room feels its wrong!
4. B happy about all ur choices bc if u dnt u will live ur whole life w/a lot of regrets!
In closing... GIVE ADVICE! the best 2 ur ability but dnt judge! Dnt stay whats wrong or right. Place urself in the situation and go from there. And if u do feel like something is WRONG! Jus STOP urself from getting into that persons thought process, and jus tell them 2 think 4 themselves! @ the moment they may not understand or mite just be mad at u but in the long run... THEY WILL APPRECIATE U! 4 teaching them 2 accept their happiness and believe that EVERYTHING HAPPENS 4 A REASON, GOOD OR BAD, IT ALL SERVES A PURPOSE!!
Love Life Forever!
1Thale!!!
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