*The number one goal in life is 2 love urself, God, and others*....This is very true!
Identity is a hard thing to come by these days! Ppl dnt kno who they are, or they dnt accept and appreciate who they are, or they are considered nothing more than a "group"!
Friends/People are needed in day to day life to help shape and mold u. Ur friends mite actual b more apart of ur growing process than ur actual family. And I wonder y is this?
*Friends teach us, hurt us, and in some cases make us.*
The word friend has gained so many definitions in the past couple of years, and that's jus to my knowledge. I think thas problem 1 when it comes to friendships! We change the definiton to make that simple word mean w/e we want it 2 be. Well lets start off first by defining the word "friend".
FRIEND:
| 1. | a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. |
| 2. | a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter |
| 3. | a person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile |
| 4. | a member of the same nation, party, etc. |
| 5. | (initial capital letter ) a member of the Religious Society of Friends; a Quaker. |
Interesting right???
Friends these days are EXPECTED....yes thas right EXPECTED to meet a certain criteria! Ur expected 2 spend time w/ur "friends", ur expected to always b there 4 ur "friend" and ur expected to b loyal to ur "friends". And trust me the list doesnt stop there, I think these are the ones I hear most frequently.
So the question is are u a good friend?!
So this is where identity comes back into action. When u know who u r, and ur completely content with who u r and what u can provide 4urself, ur expectations of ppl not just friends expire! Probably not completely at one moment but overtime they will. U now take friendship to another level..but we will come back to that at a later date!
Identity also says a lot about the ppl u will befriend as well as the ones that will befriend u.
Some ppl look for "friends" that they can ultimately benefit from. But y? Is this a bad thing, no not at all! Everyones different!
Others look for "right now" friends.... ppl who can keep up w/their fast lifestyle for rite now and some1 who appears to b on the same level as them. And this is not a mental level! More physical.
And lastly u have some ppl who look for a friend who they can talk to, relate to on a more personal level, and some1 they can share meaningful memories with. Someone similar to; family!
The problem is... our definition of friendship today is closely related to ummmm lets c, MARRIAGE! Thou should not hurt thee partner, thou should b there through sickness and health, thou should kiss thee ass, lol!! and all that blahh blahhh blahhh!
We have taking friendship to another level... once u get wrapped up in it ur lost. U loose urself completely, u are not u anymore u are them. U r not loyal to urself and ur feelings and UR HEART ur loyal 2 theirs!
This kind of friendship is easily broken, easily heart broken, and not easy to ever regain once broken.
This may seem like a very blunt place to end but... Friendship should never be filled with expectations bc @ the end of the day thas not what its based off of. Ur not tied or bonded to any friend so make urself believe that. A good friend n my opinion is one who wants 2 b there, a person who I dnt have to talk 2 everyday but I kno that they care, a person who remains themselve in every situation and respects I can only b me. A good friend is a person who wants 2 c u happy, regardless of the situation or the person or even the time!
So in closing.... dnt worry so much about being the "best friend"... worry about being the BEST U! and ultimately u will b the best @ everything! Seriously. Dnt let ppl make expectations regarding u that u wouldnt even make 4 urself. Lets go a step forward... DNT let anyone make expectations 4 u!!! B who u r.... NOT who the group wants u 2 b!
heeeyyyyy r u a good friend???!!!!
Love Life Forever
1THale
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