Sex...Unspoken Truth

I often wonder why is "sex"... being physical...and intercourse such a touchy subject to discuss within groups when it's something that is commonly done daily...

Is it because people are ashamed?? maybe because of all the stereotypes that exist..
Or are people just afraid to hear the truth about what people really think about sex??

hmmm?? I really do wonder this!

Should sex be discussed more openly and freely?? Do you think people will ever stop judging people for doing what THEY WANT TO DO?? I'm guessing, NO, but it never hurts to wonder.

How do women view sex?? How do men view sex??

oddly I think it's much of the same! Especially after the conversation my friends and I engaged in last night!

Does size matter??... is just like asking a man does big breast and butt matter??

Size is very tricky... you(a man) can have thee smallest penis BUT if you know how to work with what you have... ur size somehow just doesnt matter anymore. But how do you know you are really "working what you have" and not just really having a woman fake everything that's coming out of her mouth...
it's not all about the words you may have her screaming and yelling... it's more about the body language... the moans, the licks, the kisses, and the hand movements.

I won't tell our "faking it" tricks... but I will tell you this PAY close ATTENTION to body language!
Back 2 size... woman often wonder y some of the most confident guys are the ones w/the smaller penis BUT dnt even know where it is goes...lol! seriously... do guys know that they are small?? Because woman know that they don't have larger breast or a big butt. So how is that a man doesnt know what he has... or should have?

BUT let us NOT 4get about the guys who are "packing" ---- five dollar, five dollar footlonnnnggg(an actual quote from last night)
Some of those guys need as much training as a one yr being potty trained.
WHAT IS THE PROBLEM??

Another point about size.... and yet another question that most women want an answer to... why do men get undressed in the dark? is it because it just how it always seems to happens... or u dnt want to be seen while ur not fully "excited"? What is it?? Just like men want to see women get undressed.. we sometimes like to see you get undressed as well... That may be...considering who you are and what you have..all the 4play we need!

Sex is not one of those things that get better w/experience... for some people. Because if you do the samething everytime you have sex..and u r quite experienced then there is a problem. And this is more common w/females than males. Sorry ladies! Women can be very experienced...with multiple guys but when the lights are off they perform the same way. I don't understand. Show some creativity... figure out what you like and don't like.. and aim for pleasing yourself 1st than man last!

Another common thing that is never talked about is... sex with another race... Specifically sex with a white male.... how do black women feel about that.
2 out of 5 women think black women NEED 2 try sex with a white male because they will be more satisfied than ever before!
hmmm that is interesting. Knowing that...does that make you look @ every white guy and wonder what he "has" or what he could do for you?? lol!


LAST BUT NOT LEAST.... ejaculation...cum... whatever you want to call it. How women really feel about this and how we think men feel

3 out of 5 women would prefer a man to cum anywhere but inside of them when engaging in casual sex... whereas 2 out of 5 feel the sameway even while in a long term relationship.

Men when you ask a girl "where do you want me to cum" and she says inside of me... how does that make you feel?? both during casual sex as well as sex with your significant other??

Some women thinks it makes you feel special..."this is mine"... well imagine if she told every guy that... lol!! do you really feel special NOW walking into that clinic??? I bet not.

What is wrong with condoms?? Y don't people use them... especially people in relationships??
Okay yes there are things out there like PLAN B, BIRTH CONTROL, ABORTION... BUT there are also other things that exist that many people dont even know they have...
Sooo although condoms are not the best sometimes... just think of other ways to make them more exciting... have fun with them. Seriously!

QUOTE OF THE NIGHT: "Im not about to eat me out and suck your dick to"... Some women really don't like when you go downtown and come back trying to kiss...

Sooo with that being said.. whether it's casual sex or sex with a partner... COMMUNICATION is key! I know that may sound wack and sometimes just doesnt fit the situation but seriously you will be amazed @ how much better ur sex life would be if you just communicate and ask questions. Talk about the things you like and dont like... talk about what you want and your fantasies... talk about the use of condoms and how you feel about them... and dont be afraid to ask personal questions about health and doctor visits!...because the reality is sex is personal and if your able to engage in that.. you should be able to do it correctly!!!


Love, Life 4ever
1THale!!!!!!!

My 2009...

My 2009 was a "tough" year..
My 2009 was full of love... yup thas right LOVE found me n 2009 and saved me protected me...and healed me!

But no love lost...
Friends came and they went... 4 reasons that still maybe unknown but the fact is.. I learned a lesson @ the end of the day!
My 2009 was full of lessons... day after day...minute after minute...second after second!
I learned the phrase "treat people like you want to be treated" means nothing bc everyone is different and people r going 2 treat you HOW THEY WANT 2 TREAT U! Plain and simple!

My 2009 was full of bruises and wounds that eventually healed..
My 2009 was full of apologies and "Im sorry"

I learned that I can never look back.... after so long the more u start to look back the more everything begins to look blurry b4 it is no more!
The more u try and bring back the past.. the more u bring back the problems. AND the reality is u CANT start over.. u can only finish where u left off in hope those decisions will b better than those before!

My 2009 was "a get 2 know me year" I spent soo much time getting to know me... I didn't have much time to keep up with others and continue to know them! BUT that's apart of life.
People change daily and with change comes growth.... and sometimes the more u change the more you and some1else grows apart! Nothing personal(well hopefully) just apart of LIFE or @ least that's how I look @ it!

My 2009 was an experience to say the least! :-)

BUT through all the good and the bad, the ups and the downs, smiles and the tears MY 2009 was fulfilling and a blessing.

My 2009 taught me the true definition of happiness..and regardless of how people feel about me or how I may feel about u! I honestly just want to see EVERYONE happy! I think every1 deserves happiness! it makes you a better person and when u feel better u look better!!!

My 2009 taught me that IM DIFFERENT!... Im not better than anyone nor am I less than anyone... I just have different mind and heart... that I can't expect everyone to understand nor appreciate!

My 2009 showed me that everyone has an opinion... it may be a FACT in your eyes but to me it is probably just an OPINION! and no matter how I feel about it or look @ it. I respect it!!


Sooo that's it my 2009 was all of that and maybe more!
I love all of those who spent 2009 with me but I love those more who plan on making it through 2009 with me and bringing in 2010!!!


Love, Life 4ever
1THale!M

Im not waiting...Just Hoping!!

They say u know something is true and or real... when u walk away from and it comes back 2 u!...

I viewed it differently..." why do I have 2 walk away from something waiting for it 2 come back 2 understand and appreciate its value??"

BUT these last few days have taught me differently!
Your heart has no boundaries... ur mind does. U cnt control who you love and y u love them but u make the choice on how you love them. No1 knows what tomorrow is going 2 bring and who is going 2 b there 2 enjoy it with u but you have 2 b thankful 4 the NOW and instead of the past and future.
Love is uncontrollable... People say everyday how they r fighting love... and thas because they have never had REAL love. U cnt fight that and truthfully u can only hide from it for so long. The reality is ur heart will continue to miss a piece and it will always feel broken or unsatisfied because it is not whole w/o LOVE!

The day u let go is the day you will start to c things differently... the sky will be clear!
U wont be letting go of love but u will b letting go of the struggle... "u love some1 sooo much ur just letting them go"
AND ur not waiting ur moving on... and if some how some way "it" meets back up with u and NO love has been lost... then u know that is real and its geniune.

Some people dnt understand love when it comes 2 them... they try to hide from it because of the situation, fear, or just because they r not ready.... BUT like I said before this can only go on 4 so long!!

So the message is...Dont give up on love... on ur feelings... on ur heart!
Everything u go thru, every tear u have cried, and every unanswered questions WILL ALL b worth it sooner or later!
No1 can tell u what u feel is real BUT U!.. so believe n ur heart! b loyal 2 ur HEART... not some1elses words. Ur heart never steers u wrong...it just gives u test in hopes u will learn from them!

Everything happens for a reason, good or bad, it all has its purpose! Sooo every heartbreak strengthens u and prepares u 4 the real thing.... every sad tears prepares you 4 all the happy tears....



I love u!